Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.
Well, then, who has the potential to be our husband or wife? Appearances first attracts captures our attention and we pass a very superficially judgment on that individual. From their personality to what they like. And of course, if there’s attraction, we will then start finding common traits that we share, things that we love, music that we appreciate. We keep a mental score list of the things we have in common, how we can communicate or even someone completely opposite your personality who can compliment your relationship and when the A grade is met, we eventually end up as a couple and find ourselves being man and wife.
But are relationships meant to last an entire lifetime or is that really true how love must hurt in every relationship? I guess its the latter since 50% of Americans divorce at some point of time in their lives.
What a stunning fact. Well, at least to me, it is.
Imagine what would be the divorce rate amongst the royal couples of Tinseltown would be like? Some reports suggests rates of up to 80%.
Chalize Theron & Stuart Townsend.
Kate Winslet & Sam Mendes.
Cheryl & Ashley Cole
Sandra Bullock & Jesse James.
Courtney Cox & David Arquette
Tiger Woods & Elle Nordegren
Al Gore & Tipper
Halle Berry & Gabriel Aubry
Christina Aguilera & Jordan Bratman.
Can you spot the similarities that these couples share?
Well, they’ve all hit Splitsville in this year alone and there are countless more than have headed there. And we all thought that they would last forever and they seemed to be handling the constant spotlight shining on them everyday of their lives. They were seemingly trying their best to live as much of a normal life as they possibly can by staying out of the limelight where possible, but it still ended up in the gutters for these couples that have easily spent five or more years together as a married couple and even have had children together. Starting a family could well be the greatest testament of your love for each other but it still can lead to the disintegration of your marriage. Life is such, fickle as the wind.
In the past couple of weeks, the blogosphere has been rife with rumors that Ashton Kutcher and his wife Demi Moore, who is 15 years his senior, are headed in the same direction.
Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore
It doesn’t help that their twitter updates are anything but positive. For instance, Demi tweeted:
trying to find the light I lost, It’s there but times…we give it away along w/ our power but it’s there whenever we are
And Ashton tweeted:
When we are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself & study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.
To add fuel to the fire, they have stopped ‘following’ each other’s twitter accounts. Overcoming the odds of the huge age-gap they share, does their 6 years of marriage mean nothing and that the love they shared for each other not withstand whatever may come their way? Why does such a sacred and special union break down so easily? Even among ‘normal’ celebrity couple where they do not have such huge age-gaps to deal with, the marriage still breaks down. Is it that easy to say I don’t love you like I did yesterday?
If celebrities can’t keep their act together even when they have so much in common (well, think about it, they are in the same industry, have similar working schedules and are working towards a common goal), what more can you expect from our everyday couple?
Where’s all the promises of “I’ll take a bullet for you” or “I’ll take down a star for you” and the all important “in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, I will love you and honor you all the days of my life” and the glimpses of the perfect life you will have together when you find yourself spiraling down disappearing to?
Many find their relationships disintegrating because it has become a bore, a chore to try to spice up the relationship when you know everything you possibly can about your other half and this it it. There’s no where to go from here. Perhaps one of the biggest reason leading to a divorce would be the lost of trust or betrayal of the marriage, where either one commits such a tumultuous mistake. If we just try to take a breather, we will find that there is still so much love in us for our significant other but we are just unable to look past the mistake to give a second chance, in fear of such a heartache happening again. Sometimes, it may be good to be strong and move on but at the same time, it is a test of your relationship and if you manage to come out of it, it only strengthens your relationship.
We could give a thousand and one reasons that could lead to a breakdown of a relationship, but if you have made the decision in the first place to get married, its all in your hands to try to make it work. Take a step back and look at the picture from another angle and maybe you will see the situation in a different light. Remember, it always takes two hands to clap.
Love lasts forever.
Something that I have hanging in the living room of my house to remind us what LOVE should be.